Learning How to Love Him

  1. Respectfully communicate with him 1a. sex is different for men, it’s their way of physically and emotionally bonding with you. Do not use sex as a tool of manipulation.
  2. Let him know he’s important to you
  3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings- even when you disagree with him
  4. Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trustworthy
  5. Let the small stuff go. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouses.
  6. Tell him you both love him and like him
  7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely
  8. Protect him dignity on a daily basis
  9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings too
  10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
  11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust
  12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems- have fun instead
  13. Focus on what he’s doing right instead of focusing so often on the negatives
  14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life
  15. Give him special time with you apart from the children
  16. The first few minutes after a spouse come home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make this a positive experience. Ease into the negative.
  17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be mush more enjoyable
  18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
  19. Compliment him often
  20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and actions
  21. Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team
  22. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
  23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you
  24. Find ways to show him you need him
  25. Give him time to be alone. This energizes him to reconnect at other times.
  26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
  27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7)
  28. Respect his desire to do well- not just his performance
  29. Rub his feet or neck, scratch his back after a hard day
  30. Take time for the two of your to sit and talk calmly, schedule it when necessary
  31. Initiate going on romantic dates when he’s not tired
  32. Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him
  33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy
  34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family
  35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is giving specific reasons
  36. Give advice in a loving way, not in a nagging or belittling way
  37. Help your husband be the Spiritual Head of the Home (without ‘lording’ over him)
  38. Reserve some energy for him so you’re not too tired when he wants you sexually
  39. Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities
  40. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life
  41. Take special notice for what he has done for you and the family
  42. Brag about him to other people both in front of him and when he’s not there
  43. Keep conversations brief when he’s tired
  44. Tell him three things you specifically appreciate about him
  45. Honor him in front of the children
  46. Look straight into the eyes of your husband when he talks to you or if you’re speaking to him. This will make him feel that you are interest un what he wants to say.
  47. Get up early and pray with him
  48. Be his help-mate in whatever ways you sense he needs it
  49. Participate in shoulder to shoulder activities without talking. Sometimes men just like to be with you and not talk
  50. Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it
  51. When your husband is in a bad mood, give him time to recover and don’t crowd him
  52. Help him finish his goals, hobbies, or education when you see he needs it
  53. Treat him as if God stamped on his forehead “Handle with Care”
  54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him
  55. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
  56. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way
  57. Thank him for things he’s done around the house.
  58. Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord”
  59. Make sure he agrees with everything important you plan to do
  60. Do little things for him
  61. Don’t belittle his intelligence of be cynical in your words with him
  62. Initiate sex periodically and respond more often
  63. Sometimes let him enjoy his day off without having to ‘work’ at home
  64. Get to the point of your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them
  65. Discover his sexual needs
  66. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work
  67. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function
  68. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he misspeaks
  69. Don’t quarrel over words
  70. Be kind and courteous with him. Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him
  71. When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better
  72. As a kindness, don’t say, ” I told you so”
  73. Try now to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead
  74. Take him out on dates. Pre-planning all of the details ahead of time
  75. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public
  76. Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones
  77. Tell him you love him more often
  78. Put love notes in his pockets and brief case
  79. Sit with him whiles he watches tv- even if the program doesn’t interest you
  80. Don’t expect him to read your mind
  81. Periodically, give him time with his family alone
  82. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff
  83. Put effort to keep yourself in good shape
  84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical
  85. Carefully choose your words, remember to “speak the truth in love”
  86. Don’t criticize him in front of others, keeping his dignity intact
  87. Visit his childhood home with him
  88. When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment
  89. Pray for him
  90. Make him homemade soup when he’s sick
  91. Look your best- dress to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you
  92. Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheerleader.
  93. Don’t disagree with him in front of the children
  94. Take him for a weekend getaway without the children
  95. Cheer his successes whether in business or other areas of everyday living
  96. Graciously teach him how demonstrate his love for you
  97. Give him coupons to redeem
  98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet
  99. Hide notes around the house for him where only he will find them
  100. Thank him for being himself
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