Green

Green means go

Go forth, go forward, go out into the world

Green means grow

Accept opportunity

Rest and reset in newness

Receive peace in the pasture

Become fertile, bloom brightly

Reach, stretch toward the sun

Protect the goodness of the harvest until it’s ready to present

Health, prosperity, wealth

Newness of life, mold of preservation

Increase

Flutter, float, fly

Burst, sprout, open

Wide, vast, soft, smooth

Hard nature

Wander, wait, wilt

Green means go

Pain

Pain comes in all forms and intensities

Pain, whether physical or emotional, is painful indeed

No pain, no gain, it’s how we increase

Pain to the brain erases memories

Pain and I, we’ve never been friends

Before I really get to know him, we always seem to make amends

Pain, if deep enough, can generationally transcend

Through your family, your children, and into our nations

It’s not quite the absence of pleasure

More like a growing pressure

A wound to measure, a new bruise

The sight of blood pooling by the dresser

Pain starts and eventually, most times, it does stop

Some pain endures, it stays with you until the last drop

What are you going to do?

Suffer through it or pill pop?

The pain is peaking, it’s at its top

So you sing: pain, pain, go away

Come if you must, but please don’t stay

We need pain everyday, the feeling of life

Within our bodies as it slowly decays

In the Kitchen…

I feel grateful to be alive and well

I feel creative as I plan and prepare meals

I feel home and happy when baking

I feel full after I’ve eaten too much

I feel grateful to have food and shelter

Inhale

Exhale

I hear running water

I hear the hum of the fridge

I hear the whirring of the ceiling fan above

I hear the closing, popping sound of a lid

Inhale

Exhale

I see sunlight shining bright brilliantly radiantly

I see a couple of dishes in the sink

I see my baby’s artwork on display

I see some squirrels out the window at play

I see the grocery list growing with prices each day

Inhale

Exhale

I taste goodness and richness of delectable cuisine

I taste bold flavors and pizzazz

I taste Granny’s home cooking

I taste yummy gooey cookies and cream

I taste everything before I serve it to my team

Inhale

Exhale

I smell last night’s fried fish

I smell fresh early morning coffee

I smell clean and dirty dishes

I smell somebody washing laundry

I smell a new moment and opportunity as I

Inhale

Exhale

I can feel the warmth of my coffee mug

I can feel my hand upon a full belly’s rub

I can feel washing dishes, rubber gloves

I can feel goodness like being wrapped in a hug

I can feel joy and peace and so much love

In the kitchen

Inhale

Exhale

In the kitchen

Will I Cry?

We had not spoken in over a year

So we set out on a drive

We chopped it up and asked questions

Really had to dig down inside

I had imagined this moment

And how I would really open up

Then I remembered why we hadn’t talked

And asked myself, “For what?”

What is your purpose?

What was I supposed to miss?

I couldn’t tell you

I can’t remember

It blew away like a kiss is the wind

You’ve been in and out, out and about

Doing that and this

Odd jobs, and chasing clout

What do you even have to show for it?

That you can keep a job

Or get your own crib

For just a couple of years

You almost kind of had it “together”

Then you lost it slowly, but surely

Like a bird’s feathers every year

Bye bye goodbye

New beginnings again

Never settled, never rooted, grounded

Always hoping to ascend

But when it all ends

On the day there’s no tomorrow

I wonder what I’ll feel

Pain or maybe sorrow

I’ll look down at you

I’ll look deep inside me

And ask myself

Will I cry?

I don’t know

R.I.P.

We Are The People

A Children’s Book by Ri’ana Johnson

Outside of this special space we share called Recycled Flowers, I am now a published author. We Are The People is a not only a children’s book. It is a message to my sons, their friends (the future), our sisters and brothers, our partners, our families and ourselves. It is a reminder of the power, love, and strength within each human God has created uniquely.

We Are the People is a poetic series of positive affirmations for girls and boys to encourage self-confidence and empathy. This beautifully illustrated picture book emphasizes the importance of children learning to believe in themselves.

Its simple yet effective messaging encourages young readers to be the best version of themselves while highlighting the value of internal attributes over physical ones.

Offering a lesson on exercising our own unique powers, We Are The People reminds us of our humanity and our obligation to build stronger communities together.

As an elementary educator, I have learned that not all children hear kind words, positive affirmations, or encouragement in their homes. This is apparent in the classroom when a student faces a challenge and down talks themself or says that they can’t. A child who isn’t habitually lifted up may begin to label themself as less than.

I’ve witnessed transformative outcomes from speaking life into desires, dreams, and situations. I believe in the power of the tongue; that words are powerful. I teach this to my children and all children I’m blessed to work with.

Children need nurturing words to help them grow into solid, functional, happy people with self love and hopes for their future.

We Are The People has layers of meaning. I look forward to sharing more.

We Are The People by Ri’ana Johnson available on Amazon.

Thank you for your support and continued encouragement to keep becoming the woman of my dreams and making it happen.

Pertrifying Fear

Fear is a natural emotion.

Fight or flight.

Don’t get stuck!

Keep moving forward.

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”

– Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

What’s doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

– Friedrich Nietzsche

Let’s switch gears. Let’s not talk about life theories or ideology, but allow for a little comic relief, if you will.

You know how friends sometimes joke about each others’ driving? Driving up and over curbs, into and onto grassy yards, and tapping or barely touching a little pole aren’t the worst things that can happen.

So people laugh and take themselves seriously by asking, “But did you die?”

And although those moments may make our hearts jump a little. Although those moments may make us question whether we’ve entrusted our lives to the wrong individual and maybe even make us fearful that our end has come too soon, the great question of hilarity is still, “But did you die?”

Life’s things: events, incidents, accidents, coincidences, trials, tribulations, victories, losses and everything in between can be scary. They can be terrifying. They can be extremely exhilarating and anxiety provoking. These moments can bring upon several big emotions, sometimes all at once.

Petrifying you.

Shocking you senseless.

Vaporizing the vividness of the intensity that exists in this moment.

Oh my gosh! I’m scared. What to do?

So many feelings. We’ve all felt it a time or two.

All. The. Feels.

Goosebumps on your neck, shoulders and arms

A chill inside that terrifies and alarms

Saturated in emotion

Saturated in feeling

Petrified with fear

Is the end nearing?

Please note: this feeling, these feelings are not going to stop us.

Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will.

– Suzy Kassem

I heard before that there are more billionaires buried beneath tombstones in graveyards with dreams that they never birthed than there are living billionaires.

It’s been said that fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. People are sometimes just too afraid to try to pursue their dreams, to fail.

I mean the fear of failure is sometimes more daunting then failure itself.

The fear of failure can stop us from trying and then never being able to fail.

Failure is not always a bad thing. It’s a part of growth. It’s a part of victory, part of success, part of learning.

Never be afraid to speak your mind. You have one for a reason.

Don’t ever be afraid to show who you really are because as long as you are happy with yourself, no one else’s opinion matters.

Push through petrifying fear. Keep going no matter what. And never let anything pause your purpose.

Persistent uneasiness

Everywhere is unsafe

Terror rises and falls into shadows

Reliving the scariest thoughts and memories

Intensely shaking, teeth chattering… mind

Fretting over minute miscellany for more than minutes

You can’t move a muscle, you can’t even blink

Imagine being stuck, immobile, completely idle

Nothing to lose, nothing to gain

Going nowhere is scary, scarring

Fidgeting in terror

Evolving into strength

Accepting emotions

Relief from being a coward

Growing Recycled Flowers

Welcome back. I hope that you are well, feeling refreshed, ready and energized enough to fully grasp whatever this day holds for you.

Thank you for clicking here and checking out my blog. I truly am grateful for each viewer, reader, subscriber, commenter, and sharer of Recycled Flowers Blog. Through concentrated efforts, connected ideas and concerted manifestations, we are growing, as a community.

I am diligently working to develop this space into something magical. Like somewhere over the rainbow, way up high, wheresoever the storage clouds are and bluebirds fly.

It’s cyberspace, so community building looks different. We all have our Internet aunties, cousins, best friends, other buds and budding bonds that bound beyond and break the barriers of basic blather about business and beauty.

Let’s grow and flourish. Let’s release our ideas, the seeds that will produce our dreams. Let’s make our own dreams come true. Our dreams will flourish and bloom. They will create a legacy that continues to flower and unfold into beautiful knowledge and power in the lives of humans here and humans to come.

I share Recycled Flowers Blog with you because I find joy and peace in opening up, being transparent and vulnerable with my truest thoughts, feelings, reflections, insight, wisdom, laughter, hope, happiness and heart with those who care to read.

Recycled Flowers is a blog written to share timeless excerpts, teachable moments and more. The beauty of it all is that as we recycle wisdom and give flowers and homage to our heroines and heroes, we edify one another and our generations to come.

Let us bestow flowers upon one another through our stories and experiences to spread laughter, tug at heart strings, make us reflect, wonder, imagine, inspire and more.

I’d love to know more about each and every one of you, your lives, your hopes, dreams, fears and accomplishments. Where are you from? How did you stumble upon this particular page? What challenges are you facing? What’s holding you back? What’s pushing you forward? Where do you want to be in your life in five years? What is your biggest fear, why? How do you recharge?

Answer one or some of the questions above. Tell us how you are a solution seeker and you solved a problem. I have reminded myself that Recycled Flowers Blog isn’t a journal by any means. Everything doesn’t belong here.

Writing is how I recharge, how I release and recharge. Recycled Flowers has been me sharing or recycling the beauty, that is, favor, power, love, knowledge and wisdom, that has been passed to me on to you. But I want Recycled Flowers to be more than just me sharing.

I want Recycled Flowers Community to be you and I pouring out and watering each other. Here we can support, uplift and empower one another.

Let’s dig a little. You dig, a little?

Anyway, thank you for being here and exploring the ever-expanding garden of recycled flowers. Please reflect and spread positivity wherever you are. Thanks for being a part of the Recycled Flowers Blog community.

Inspiration

There’s a beautiful Black woman and she inspires me each day

With the quotes she says, the jokes she shares and the ways she makes a way

She keeps pushing, keeps going, keeps fighting, keeps growing

Knowing good and well the kinds of seeds she’s sowing

If she told you her story, there are parts you wouldn’t believe to be true

The challenges that she’s faced and bodied won’t stop the plans she has made up in her mind to do

Each day is a new gift, a blessing from above

So she let’s her light shine and leads each day with love

It’s not a secret that success takes hard work, dedication and focus

She allows you to lean in, learn from her journey and take notes Sis

If you want to be a hater, you can. That’s you.

But hating isn’t cool. Inspiration is the move

Let’s lift each other up, manifest positive things

Let us lift ev’ry voice and sing

Praises, thanks and apologies will bring the right people onto your team

Believe in yourself, believe in the next

Believe that one day your good is the best

Thank you so very much for inspiring me

I pray that you achieve all your dreams

Asé Queen

Learning How to Love Him

  1. Respectfully communicate with him 1a. sex is different for men, it’s their way of physically and emotionally bonding with you. Do not use sex as a tool of manipulation.
  2. Let him know he’s important to you
  3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings- even when you disagree with him
  4. Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trustworthy
  5. Let the small stuff go. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouses.
  6. Tell him you both love him and like him
  7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely
  8. Protect him dignity on a daily basis
  9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings too
  10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
  11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust
  12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems- have fun instead
  13. Focus on what he’s doing right instead of focusing so often on the negatives
  14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life
  15. Give him special time with you apart from the children
  16. The first few minutes after a spouse come home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make this a positive experience. Ease into the negative.
  17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be mush more enjoyable
  18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
  19. Compliment him often
  20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and actions
  21. Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team
  22. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
  23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you
  24. Find ways to show him you need him
  25. Give him time to be alone. This energizes him to reconnect at other times.
  26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
  27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7)
  28. Respect his desire to do well- not just his performance
  29. Rub his feet or neck, scratch his back after a hard day
  30. Take time for the two of your to sit and talk calmly, schedule it when necessary
  31. Initiate going on romantic dates when he’s not tired
  32. Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him
  33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy
  34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family
  35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is giving specific reasons
  36. Give advice in a loving way, not in a nagging or belittling way
  37. Help your husband be the Spiritual Head of the Home (without ‘lording’ over him)
  38. Reserve some energy for him so you’re not too tired when he wants you sexually
  39. Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities
  40. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life
  41. Take special notice for what he has done for you and the family
  42. Brag about him to other people both in front of him and when he’s not there
  43. Keep conversations brief when he’s tired
  44. Tell him three things you specifically appreciate about him
  45. Honor him in front of the children
  46. Look straight into the eyes of your husband when he talks to you or if you’re speaking to him. This will make him feel that you are interest un what he wants to say.
  47. Get up early and pray with him
  48. Be his help-mate in whatever ways you sense he needs it
  49. Participate in shoulder to shoulder activities without talking. Sometimes men just like to be with you and not talk
  50. Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it
  51. When your husband is in a bad mood, give him time to recover and don’t crowd him
  52. Help him finish his goals, hobbies, or education when you see he needs it
  53. Treat him as if God stamped on his forehead “Handle with Care”
  54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him
  55. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
  56. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way
  57. Thank him for things he’s done around the house.
  58. Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord”
  59. Make sure he agrees with everything important you plan to do
  60. Do little things for him
  61. Don’t belittle his intelligence of be cynical in your words with him
  62. Initiate sex periodically and respond more often
  63. Sometimes let him enjoy his day off without having to ‘work’ at home
  64. Get to the point of your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them
  65. Discover his sexual needs
  66. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work
  67. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function
  68. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he misspeaks
  69. Don’t quarrel over words
  70. Be kind and courteous with him. Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him
  71. When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better
  72. As a kindness, don’t say, ” I told you so”
  73. Try now to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead
  74. Take him out on dates. Pre-planning all of the details ahead of time
  75. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public
  76. Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones
  77. Tell him you love him more often
  78. Put love notes in his pockets and brief case
  79. Sit with him whiles he watches tv- even if the program doesn’t interest you
  80. Don’t expect him to read your mind
  81. Periodically, give him time with his family alone
  82. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff
  83. Put effort to keep yourself in good shape
  84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical
  85. Carefully choose your words, remember to “speak the truth in love”
  86. Don’t criticize him in front of others, keeping his dignity intact
  87. Visit his childhood home with him
  88. When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment
  89. Pray for him
  90. Make him homemade soup when he’s sick
  91. Look your best- dress to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you
  92. Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheerleader.
  93. Don’t disagree with him in front of the children
  94. Take him for a weekend getaway without the children
  95. Cheer his successes whether in business or other areas of everyday living
  96. Graciously teach him how demonstrate his love for you
  97. Give him coupons to redeem
  98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet
  99. Hide notes around the house for him where only he will find them
  100. Thank him for being himself