I am an educator, entrepreneur and mother. I am becoming the woman I wish to be. As you read and learn more about my life's journey, you're invited into my heart and mind to witness my triumphs and tragedies. Welcome to Recycled Flowers!
Outside of this special space we share called Recycled Flowers, I am now a published author. We Are The People is a not only a children’s book. It is a message to my sons, their friends (the future), our sisters and brothers, our partners, our families and ourselves. It is a reminder of the power, love, and strength within each human God has created uniquely.
We Are the People is a poetic series of positive affirmations for girls and boys to encourage self-confidence and empathy. This beautifully illustrated picture book emphasizes the importance of children learning to believe in themselves.
Its simple yet effective messaging encourages young readers to be the best version of themselves while highlighting the value of internal attributes over physical ones.
Offering a lesson on exercising our own unique powers, We Are The People reminds us of our humanity and our obligation to build stronger communities together.
As an elementary educator, I have learned that not all children hear kind words, positive affirmations, or encouragement in their homes. This is apparent in the classroom when a student faces a challenge and down talks themself or says that they can’t. A child who isn’t habitually lifted up may begin to label themself as less than.
I’ve witnessed transformative outcomes from speaking life into desires, dreams, and situations. I believe in the power of the tongue; that words are powerful. I teach this to my children and all children I’m blessed to work with.
Children need nurturing words to help them grow into solid, functional, happy people with self love and hopes for their future.
We Are The People has layers of meaning. I look forward to sharing more.
We Are The People by Ri’ana Johnson available on Amazon.
Thank you for your support and continued encouragement to keep becoming the woman of my dreams and making it happen.
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”
– Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
What’s doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
– Friedrich Nietzsche
Let’s switch gears. Let’s not talk about life theories or ideology, but allow for a little comic relief, if you will.
You know how friends sometimes joke about each others’ driving? Driving up and over curbs, into and onto grassy yards, and tapping or barely touching a little pole aren’t the worst things that can happen.
So people laugh and take themselves seriously by asking, “But did you die?”
And although those moments may make our hearts jump a little. Although those moments may make us question whether we’ve entrusted our lives to the wrong individual and maybe even make us fearful that our end has come too soon, the great question of hilarity is still, “But did you die?”
Life’s things: events, incidents, accidents, coincidences, trials, tribulations, victories, losses and everything in between can be scary. They can be terrifying. They can be extremely exhilarating and anxiety provoking. These moments can bring upon several big emotions, sometimes all at once.
Petrifying you.
Shocking you senseless.
Vaporizing the vividness of the intensity that exists in this moment.
Oh my gosh! I’m scared. What to do?
So many feelings. We’ve all felt it a time or two.
All. The. Feels.
Goosebumps on your neck, shoulders and arms
A chill inside that terrifies and alarms
Saturated in emotion
Saturated in feeling
Petrified with fear
Is the end nearing?
Please note: this feeling, these feelings are not going to stop us.
Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will.
– Suzy Kassem
I heard before that there are more billionaires buried beneath tombstones in graveyards with dreams that they never birthed than there are living billionaires.
It’s been said that fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. People are sometimes just too afraid to try to pursue their dreams, to fail.
I mean the fear of failure is sometimes more daunting then failure itself.
The fear of failure can stop us from trying and then never being able to fail.
Failure is not always a bad thing. It’s a part of growth. It’s a part of victory, part of success, part of learning.
Never be afraid to speak your mind. You have one for a reason.
Don’t ever be afraid to show who you really are because as long as you are happy with yourself, no one else’s opinion matters.
Push through petrifying fear. Keep going no matter what. And never let anything pause your purpose.
Persistent uneasiness
Everywhere is unsafe
Terror rises and falls into shadows
Reliving the scariest thoughts and memories
Intensely shaking, teeth chattering… mind
Fretting over minute miscellany for more than minutes
Welcome back. I hope that you are well, feeling refreshed, ready and energized enough to fully grasp whatever this day holds for you.
Thank you for clicking here and checking out my blog. I truly am grateful for each viewer, reader, subscriber, commenter, and sharer of Recycled Flowers Blog. Through concentrated efforts, connected ideas and concerted manifestations, we are growing, as a community.
I am diligently working to develop this space into something magical. Like somewhere over the rainbow, way up high, wheresoever the storage clouds are and bluebirds fly.
It’s cyberspace, so community building looks different. We all have our Internet aunties, cousins, best friends, other buds and budding bonds that bound beyond and break the barriers of basic blather about business and beauty.
Let’s grow and flourish. Let’s release our ideas, the seeds that will produce our dreams. Let’s make our own dreams come true. Our dreams will flourish and bloom. They will create a legacy that continues to flower and unfold into beautiful knowledge and power in the lives of humans here and humans to come.
I share Recycled Flowers Blog with you because I find joy and peace in opening up, being transparent and vulnerable with my truest thoughts, feelings, reflections, insight, wisdom, laughter, hope, happiness and heart with those who care to read.
Recycled Flowers is a blog written to share timeless excerpts, teachable moments and more. The beauty of it all is that as we recycle wisdom and give flowers and homage to our heroines and heroes, we edify one another and our generations to come.
Let us bestow flowers upon one another through our stories and experiences to spread laughter, tug at heart strings, make us reflect, wonder, imagine, inspire and more.
I’d love to know more about each and every one of you, your lives, your hopes, dreams, fears and accomplishments. Where are you from? How did you stumble upon this particular page? What challenges are you facing? What’s holding you back? What’s pushing you forward? Where do you want to be in your life in five years? What is your biggest fear, why? How do you recharge?
Answer one or some of the questions above. Tell us how you are a solution seeker and you solved a problem. I have reminded myself that Recycled Flowers Blog isn’t a journal by any means. Everything doesn’t belong here.
Writing is how I recharge, how I release and recharge. Recycled Flowers has been me sharing or recycling the beauty, that is, favor, power, love, knowledge and wisdom, that has been passed to me on to you. But I want Recycled Flowers to be more than just me sharing.
I want Recycled Flowers Community to be you and I pouring out and watering each other. Here we can support, uplift and empower one another.
Let’s dig a little. You dig, a little?
Anyway, thank you for being here and exploring the ever-expanding garden of recycled flowers. Please reflect and spread positivity wherever you are. Thanks for being a part of the Recycled Flowers Blog community.
Respectfully communicate with him 1a. sex is different for men, it’s their way of physically and emotionally bonding with you. Do not use sex as a tool of manipulation.
Let him know he’s important to you
Purposefully try to understand his feelings- even when you disagree with him
Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trustworthy
Let the small stuff go. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouses.
Tell him you both love him and like him
Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely
Protect him dignity on a daily basis
When confronting him, realize he has feelings too
Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust
When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems- have fun instead
Focus on what he’s doing right instead of focusing so often on the negatives
Show interest in what he feels is important in life
Give him special time with you apart from the children
The first few minutes after a spouse come home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make this a positive experience. Ease into the negative.
Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be mush more enjoyable
Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
Compliment him often
Be creative when you express your love, both in words and actions
Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team
Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you
Find ways to show him you need him
Give him time to be alone. This energizes him to reconnect at other times.
Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7)
Respect his desire to do well- not just his performance
Rub his feet or neck, scratch his back after a hard day
Take time for the two of your to sit and talk calmly, schedule it when necessary
Initiate going on romantic dates when he’s not tired
Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him
Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy
Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family
Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is giving specific reasons
Give advice in a loving way, not in a nagging or belittling way
Help your husband be the Spiritual Head of the Home (without ‘lording’ over him)
Reserve some energy for him so you’re not too tired when he wants you sexually
Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities
Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life
Take special notice for what he has done for you and the family
Brag about him to other people both in front of him and when he’s not there
Keep conversations brief when he’s tired
Tell him three things you specifically appreciate about him
Honor him in front of the children
Look straight into the eyes of your husband when he talks to you or if you’re speaking to him. This will make him feel that you are interest un what he wants to say.
Get up early and pray with him
Be his help-mate in whatever ways you sense he needs it
Participate in shoulder to shoulder activities without talking. Sometimes men just like to be with you and not talk
Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it
When your husband is in a bad mood, give him time to recover and don’t crowd him
Help him finish his goals, hobbies, or education when you see he needs it
Treat him as if God stamped on his forehead “Handle with Care”
Work to get rid of habits that annoy him
Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way
Thank him for things he’s done around the house.
Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord”
Make sure he agrees with everything important you plan to do
Do little things for him
Don’t belittle his intelligence of be cynical in your words with him
Initiate sex periodically and respond more often
Sometimes let him enjoy his day off without having to ‘work’ at home
Get to the point of your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them
Discover his sexual needs
Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work
Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function
Give him the benefit of the doubt when he misspeaks
Don’t quarrel over words
Be kind and courteous with him. Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him
When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better
As a kindness, don’t say, ” I told you so”
Try now to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead
Take him out on dates. Pre-planning all of the details ahead of time
Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public
Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones
Tell him you love him more often
Put love notes in his pockets and brief case
Sit with him whiles he watches tv- even if the program doesn’t interest you
Don’t expect him to read your mind
Periodically, give him time with his family alone
Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff
Put effort to keep yourself in good shape
Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical
Carefully choose your words, remember to “speak the truth in love”
Don’t criticize him in front of others, keeping his dignity intact
Visit his childhood home with him
When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment
Pray for him
Make him homemade soup when he’s sick
Look your best- dress to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you
Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheerleader.
Don’t disagree with him in front of the children
Take him for a weekend getaway without the children
Cheer his successes whether in business or other areas of everyday living
Graciously teach him how demonstrate his love for you
Give him coupons to redeem
Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet
Hide notes around the house for him where only he will find them